Things I've Learned After One Year of Forbidden Luxin'

What a difference a year makes.

I seriously had to check my Facebook Life Events just now to make sure that I’ve only been blogging for a year and not two. That’s how astronomically different my life and mental space is right now. I have this little corner of online real estate and God to thank for that.

God says that He’ll restore the years the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25) and perhaps this time warp is Him doing just that. When you keep looking towards the future and focusing on your lack, you miss all the glory sprouting up around you. I cried at my desk when I pressed publish on the post that announced Forbidden Luxe to the world last year. It was a buoy in a sea of depression that I felt I was drowning in.


When you keep looking towards the future and focusing on your lack, you miss all the glory sprouting up around you.

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Today this brand has morphed into a space where I can use my journey as a springboard to touch the lives of women experiencing similar things. Who knew?  

So, on the anniversary of year one, I’d like to share what I’ve learned thus far.

Ash Nelson Forbidden Luxe

Limit Yourself, But Life Goes On

You can choose to go balls to the wall or you can let fear stop you. Your excuses for why you aren’t the one to go after something doesn’t stop the world though. There are people around you who will still keep moving full steam towards their own goals. There are people you don’t even know who don’t have half the skill you do, but have the courage to put out the very thing you go to sleep thinking about every night. You can put limits on yourself all you want, but that doesn’t mean the world will stay small with you.


Limit yourself, but the world won’t stay small to make up for your insecurities.

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New Beginnings Come As You Please

I wish I had a side by side of what Forbidden Luxe looked like 365 days ago and what you’re looking at now. It’s a completely different space and a completely different vision. In fact, I’ve rebranded a few times along the way to make space for the growth my journey brings. As you learn you grow, so be flexible enough to allow for things around you to change to accommodate that growth.


As you learn you grow, so be flexible enough to allow for things around you to change to accommodate that growth. CLICK TO TWEET


You don’t need anyone’s permission to start fresh. New beginnings come whenever and wherever you like. A fresh start doesn’t negate the work you’ve already put in because a consistent grind is all that matters. In terms of branding I think I’ve found a look I can settle into, but who knows what new endeavors will pop up in year two. I’m ready for all the new beginnings headed my way.

Starting Is Not Enough

The first step to getting your dream off of the ground is just starting. That’s a pretty big deal, but it’s not enough. Consistency picks up where starting left off. As I write this blog post on the eve of this one year anniversary there’s a part of me that knows I could be way further.


Consistency picks up where starting left off.

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No One Cares

Honestly, the only thing that matters is results. Everything else is irrelevant. It sounds harsh, but that’s what it takes to win. It’s why we study the greats to figure out how they got to where they are. We want the formula to success, not excuses for why x, y, z didn’t work. Anyone can be regular, but being great sets you apart.

No one cares about why you haven’t reached your potential. Mediocrity gets stuck in the wasteland of the unnoticed. You have to work hard every day in order to start seeing results and even then, you have to work harder to maintain them. Success can flee just as quickly as it came and no one cares about the details of why. Work hard to get there and work harder to stay.


Mediocrity gets stuck in the wasteland of the unnoticed.

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Do You, Boo

A lot of this year has been spent on trial and error. It was necessary, but proved one major thing to be true: once you find your sweet spot you’ll reach an unstoppable rhythm. Find your unique gifts and operate within those. Don’t work about what anyone else is doing. A lot of this blogging stuff is smoke and mirrors; it looks much easier than it actually is. I’ve used that as solace as I dredge through the glamour-less day-to-day work it takes to produce results. Use the world as inspiration, but focus on cultivating your own unique gifts.


Use the world as inspiration, but focus on cultivating your own unique gifts.

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